Kissing a Pecker
Goodbye Gal
It’s been a while since I’ve encountered a bad kisser, and Local Guy is undeniably bad. He purses his lips and pecks. Peck, peck, peck.
We had plans to meet for the first time on Thursday, but the weather caused us to reschedule. Since we had yet to speak on the phone I decided he could call me. As we got to know each other better he began asking some very specific questions about where I work and I told him it was making me a little uncomfortable, but then it came out that he grew up with a guy who used to work with me and I was really close to. Based on that I was already feeling very comfortable about our 1st date.
Thanks to snow I was forced to base my 1st date outfit on my snowboots, so when things were going well at coffee and he asked if I wanted to grab a drink elsewhere I told him I wouldn’t feel comfortable in a bar dressed as I was, but he could come over for a couple beers at my place if he wanted to hang out.
He was acting really nervous and I jokingly asked “am I intimidating you?” to which he replied “Only a little”. I don’t get it at all. I am just a girl, a normal girl…what is so intimidating? I think I am easy to talk to and comfortable to be around, but he was totally not relaxing.
We watched tv, had a few beers and chatted about this and that. Slowly he started to relax and we even moved to touching and holding hands… it was nice and he has these amazing hands… warm, strong hands. We eventually started to doze off on the couch and I had to get up for a lunch date with JJ, so I sent him home.
The next day I wake up and shoot him a text message about what a nice time I had and asked what he was up to later. Turns out he was planning a movie and more couch time with me 
He arrives and greets me with a peck. I pour some wine, pop in the movie, which we end up chatting over and not really watching. and then we eventually get to the point of the night where he comes in for a kiss. Peck, peck, peck…. ugh. “Really? Is that what you got?” I huffed at him. I think it shocked him, but up to this point I was totally open and honest about everything, so if he was paying attention to my personality it shouldn’t have disturbed him much.
He may have potential, but do I have the desire to train? He is very handsome, but so shy and insecure. I need a man who shows what he wants and to quote my earlier tweet “if you can’t kiss me like you wanna f*ck me, then you’re never getting invited to.”
I haven’t fully dismissed Local Guy, but I’m still on the dating train and waiting for my next stop.
Tags: 30-something and dating, Dating, Digital Dating
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Let me begin by saying, excellent entry title. *applause*
Now, my first reaction to “peck, peck, peck” was yikes. Been awhile since I’ve dealt with a bad kisser, and the memories aren’t pleasant. But then I read the rest and it brought to mind a book I saw reviewed in People. “Marry Him – The Case For Settling for Mr Good Enough”. A quote in the article: “I’m not saying don’t fall in love. I’m saying learn to compromise so you CAN.”
Give Local Guy a chance. SHOULDN’T he be a little intimidated? You’re a catch, right? You demand a lot because you feel you deserve a lot. He’s got a lot to live up to. And maybe he’s a take-it-slow guy who doesn’t WANT to f*ck you just yet, so he’s purposely not sending that message through his smooches. And huffing at him probably didn’t boost his confidence much. Poor guy. LOL
Then again, maybe he simply DOES need training. (Which can be hot on some level… “Let me show you what *I* like.”) But maybe he’s worth it? Sometimes instant gratification isn’t as satisfying as the stuff you have to work to get. (Jeez…. I just got preachy there… sorries.)
Thanks Trish! Funny thing is I have that book and I’ve just started reading it! I am hopeful it can make me change my ways of cutting down these nice guys.
I agree that the huffy comment was mean and I need to apologize and make sure he is not hurt by it.
Alright, I’m going to pass on spanking you for inviting a man into your home the *first* time you met him, and forgoing our “three date” rule, even though you PROMISED ME … .
I think it’s hilarious that you’re schooling him on kissing, but I don’t think this is something that can be taught. Remember your experience with the guy you dated last year? Same sorta thing. That being said, I’m not sure I would count “bad kissing” as the deal breaker. Is it possible the kissing could get “better” the more you feel for him? I think so …
Let me begin by saying, excellent entry title. *applause*
Now, my first reaction to “peck, peck, peck” was yikes. Been awhile since I’ve dealt with a bad kisser, and the memories aren’t pleasant. But then I read the rest and it brought to mind a book I saw reviewed in People. “Marry Him – The Case For Settling for Mr Good Enough”. A quote in the article: “I’m not saying don’t fall in love. I’m saying learn to compromise so you CAN.”
Give Local Guy a chance. SHOULDN’T he be a little intimidated? You’re a catch, right? You demand a lot because you feel you deserve a lot. He’s got a lot to live up to. And maybe he’s a take-it-slow guy who doesn’t WANT to f*ck you just yet, so he’s purposely not sending that message through his smooches. And huffing at him probably didn’t boost his confidence much. Poor guy. LOL
Then again, maybe he simply DOES need training. (Which can be hot on some level… “Let me show you what *I* like.”) But maybe he’s worth it? Sometimes instant gratification isn’t as satisfying as the stuff you have to work to get. (Jeez…. I just got preachy there… sorries.)
Give it up girl!! Are you going to get picky over training??? A little instruction goes a long way! Help the poor guy out a little bit- you never know what could be hiding behind that nervous peck. A little instruction could transform him from ‘not’ to ‘hot’ in a matter of minutes, and he’ll be totally into you and want to learn more from you, with you. Carpe diem, girlfriend!! Worst case scenario- you’ll find he’s nothing but a little pecker.