The Road Not Taken
Singlegal
I have an interesting proposal happening … right now. Yes, right now. I can’t link where I’m at, but the short story is that a man who was very influential in my life changes is where I am currently. We are messaging each other and the opportunity to meet is there. And you know what? I’m not going to take it (I’ll link to the vague post I wrote about this situation at a later time).
Why? I’m not really sure. When we first offered to meet, two years ago, he chickened out. Now it’s two years later, and I guess enough time has lapsed that he feels I’m not some sordid vixen who is going to take over his life and his heart. But for me, while I’m still wildly curious, I guess I’ve settled for not ever knowing. Sure, it would be nice to put a face to the name, to see what it’s all about. And honestly – I’d like to just *see* him, without meeting, and maybe that’s what I’ll do. But as for meeting? I’m just no longer sure. I guess in my mind, that time has past.
There’s a problem with men you meet on the Internet (this also occurs in “real life”, but more so on the Internet). Some people forget, because they might not ever meet you, that’ you’re a real person, with real feelings. This is what happened here. I don’t think he’s a fundamentally bad guy, but I do believe the possibility of me being “real” is far too overwhelming. This is a mistake I rarely ever make; people are always people to me, regardless of what form, virtual or otherwise, they appear in my life. I just haven’t always found the same in return.
Perhaps I’m smarting from other recent events in my life. I probably am. And perhaps they are translating to me wanting to let sleeping dogs lie. Strange, since it’s not really my strong suit, but I feel a bit defeated as of late and I think this is one I’m going to take a pass at.
So he’s here; this man I’ve always wondered about. He could be within feet of me. I could walk by him and never see his name. And I’m going to let it stay that way. Perhaps forever.
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I take the view that if a guy isn’t committed to meeting you he’s not worth your time. When you were single he had his chance. Now that you’re with Zinc it’d be unfair to Zinc to pursue something with a guy who never stepped up in the first place.
Just my 0.02 EUR cents
Lucky you to have options! When I was single I couldn’t seem to get one guy interested in me. Was alone for nearly ten years (not even a friends with benefit option!) until finally a guy paid me some attention and eventually became my husband. So to have two guys interested at once is mind blowing to me – it must be awfully flattering!!
Also good for you that you are making a sensible decision with this one and not letting the feelings of flattery get the best of you! I hope all goes well for you and Zinc!