Narcissists often throw themselves into relationships with lots of big gestures and over-the-top professions while they’re in the idealization phase, during which the partner can do no wrong. But after awhile, usually a few months, the golden haze wears off, and the narcissist devalues and discards the partner, abruptly dumping him/her, often quite callously and without a reasonable explanation. Other hallmarks of narcissists include trouble maintaining interpersonal relationships of all kinds and a relentlessly sour attitude toward others. Though narcissists may be very sociable and charming in public, those who see their private sides know they always have something bad to say about everyone. This, of course, is doubly true of anyone they’ve dated.

Of course, I have no way of knowing if Darwin really was a narcissist, but narcissists cause a lot of emotional damage, so I like to spread the word about them in hopes that more people will be aware of the warning signs. Of all the signs there are, extravagant, romantic displays too early on are some of the best indicators.

You seriously run into people without friends more and more? That just seems odd. And boring.

that’s really my only sign. If I have to excuse away things instead of ‘talking him up’ to family and friends… I should be bragging about instead of hiding facts.

My last relationship ended in a fiery bloody mess (half literally) and I still defend her to a point because that was who I was with. She was a reflection of me and I don’t think she was garbage. She had her issues and I hope that she sorts them out, but understand where she was coming from and I hoped that ending it pushed her in a better direction.

#3 is a bad one. If they don’t have any friends, you become their entire world and that just sucks.