Comments on: Marathon of Meetups http://www.suddenlysingles.net/2009/11/marathon-of-meetups/ Two Thirty Somethings - Suddenly Single, Again. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:15:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles http://www.suddenlysingles.net/2009/11/marathon-of-meetups/comment-page-1/#comment-1160 Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles Wed, 25 Nov 2009 06:28:35 +0000 http://www.suddenlysingles.net/?p=945#comment-1160 I'm a little different from most women when it comes to the first date payment policy, but I usually insist on splitting the bill because I don't want the guy to feel like I "owe" him something as well as because unless I know for sure I want to see him again, it seems wrong to ask him to pay for a wasted date. I generally only let the guy pay the first time if I'm 100% sure I want another date AND if I know that he's doing really well financially so that it's not a burden. But that's just me. I’m a little different from most women when it comes to the first date payment policy, but I usually insist on splitting the bill because I don’t want the guy to feel like I “owe” him something as well as because unless I know for sure I want to see him again, it seems wrong to ask him to pay for a wasted date. I generally only let the guy pay the first time if I’m 100% sure I want another date AND if I know that he’s doing really well financially so that it’s not a burden. But that’s just me.

]]> By: Maritime Gypsy http://www.suddenlysingles.net/2009/11/marathon-of-meetups/comment-page-1/#comment-1140 Maritime Gypsy Fri, 20 Nov 2009 02:01:04 +0000 http://www.suddenlysingles.net/?p=945#comment-1140 I agree all three of these... and want to add age is not anything unless you make it something and if you're interested in someone because of their accomplishments that's fine too, it is part of who they are after all. and sometimes we women are attracted to the 'provider type' I once started to crush on a guy simple because he mentioned he was thinking of buying a house... I hadn't thought of him like that until that exact moment. If you stop looking for a boyfriend you'll find one. It should happen naturally, its more likely to stick :) Much Love I agree all three of these… and want to add age is not anything unless you make it something and if you’re interested in someone because of their accomplishments that’s fine too, it is part of who they are after all. and sometimes we women are attracted to the ‘provider type’ I once started to crush on a guy simple because he mentioned he was thinking of buying a house… I hadn’t thought of him like that until that exact moment.
If you stop looking for a boyfriend you’ll find one. It should happen naturally, its more likely to stick :)
Much Love

]]> By: Jane Wonder http://www.suddenlysingles.net/2009/11/marathon-of-meetups/comment-page-1/#comment-1137 Jane Wonder Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:12:55 +0000 http://www.suddenlysingles.net/?p=945#comment-1137 Here is the proper answer on the paying issue: Always be prepared to pay for your portion of the date. Always always always. When the check comes, reach for your purse and say something like "Let me help you with that." See how they react. If they accept then pay your portion (which is what you were already prepared to do, of course). If they turn you down, ask if they're sure. If they are, put your purse down, then look them directly in the eye and say thank you. It's foolproof. If the guy didn't intend to pay then you didn't just leave them in the awkward position of asking you for money. If they did intend to pay, then they now know you are dating them and not their wallet. And you're gracious and good-mannered because you thanked them. Here is the proper answer on the paying issue:

Always be prepared to pay for your portion of the date. Always always always. When the check comes, reach for your purse and say something like “Let me help you with that.” See how they react. If they accept then pay your portion (which is what you were already prepared to do, of course). If they turn you down, ask if they’re sure. If they are, put your purse down, then look them directly in the eye and say thank you.

It’s foolproof. If the guy didn’t intend to pay then you didn’t just leave them in the awkward position of asking you for money. If they did intend to pay, then they now know you are dating them and not their wallet. And you’re gracious and good-mannered because you thanked them.

]]> By: singlegal http://www.suddenlysingles.net/2009/11/marathon-of-meetups/comment-page-1/#comment-1136 singlegal Thu, 19 Nov 2009 13:52:14 +0000 http://www.suddenlysingles.net/?p=945#comment-1136 I think to find the answer about both guys, it's going to take a little time. I wouldn't necessarily write off someone because of the age difference, and I know this is something that hasn't appealed to you in the past, so I'm assuming there is something really "special" about this guy. I guess time will tell if the "age difference" will really work out and if you're having fun and hanging out with someone nice in the meantime, then that's a good thing. If you are on a streak - keep going with it! That's what dating is all about. I think to find the answer about both guys, it’s going to take a little time. I wouldn’t necessarily write off someone because of the age difference, and I know this is something that hasn’t appealed to you in the past, so I’m assuming there is something really “special” about this guy. I guess time will tell if the “age difference” will really work out and if you’re having fun and hanging out with someone nice in the meantime, then that’s a good thing.
If you are on a streak – keep going with it! That’s what dating is all about.

]]> By: Single City Guy http://www.suddenlysingles.net/2009/11/marathon-of-meetups/comment-page-1/#comment-1132 Single City Guy Wed, 18 Nov 2009 06:43:57 +0000 http://www.suddenlysingles.net/?p=945#comment-1132 There is a difference between the guy you want and what you need, so here's a question for you - having just moved into your own place - what do you need right now? And who fits that the best? There is a difference between the guy you want and what you need, so here’s a question for you – having just moved into your own place – what do you need right now? And who fits that the best?

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